It is said that growth arises from struggle. That change comes from pain. So why is it that we resist? Why have we not learned to welcome our pain and our struggles as opportunities for growth? This is the path. As I personally work toward the ever-pervasive goal of being comfortable with being uncomfortable, I've come to rely on a variety of practices to help me get there. Not that there's any "there" to arrive to, but rather ways of being and practicing to move toward personal growth.
First -- I've learned to ask for help. Whether it's in a 12-step meeting, a text with a friend, or a prayer to the universe, I realize that I can't do all of this life stuff alone. I need the help of people I trust and energies I don't even fully comprehend.
Second -- when in doubt, throw it out. I've learned how to quit. When things don't serve me and I truly know that at my core, time to let it go. This does not just apply to old vegetables. Don't sweat it and let it go. Life is just way too short.
Third -- when I really don't know what to do, I'll do nothing. Sometimes answers take a while to come. And my first reaction is to resist and say no. So it helps to add in a little waiting time before making big decisions. Sometimes this also makes sense for little decisions, too.
This human experience thing can get a little rocky for us all. So it's good for me to keep in mind that I never know what someone else might be going through. I hope whatever you're going through, you can see that this too shall pass. All things will change. May you feel blessed in this moment.